What do we do when others let us down?

A challenge shared by one of the students in my yoga class for teenagers this week.

A challenge that many face throughout their life journey.

So how do we manage our emotions when others act in a way that is not in sync with how we would like them to be.

My observations on this challenge is the following.

Within each of us there is an internal moral compass, which guides our values, personal integrity and choices.

When another individual acts in a way that conflicts with our personal values, we can feel anxious, sad, hurt or let down to name a few of our different emotions.

As humans we are blessed with the ability to experience a whole range of different emotions. Acknowledging the many different emotions, we can consciously and unconsciously feel is part and parcel of life.

For myself the best way I have found to not fall into the judgement trap of others is to focus on one’s own personal integrity.

Through focusing on one’s own personal integrity and values, being true to oneself and standing tall in your own truth. We build an inner strength and wisdom based on our personal values that lights our path and diffuses the shadows of negative emotions brought on by the actions of others that are not aligned with our personal values.

Also, acceptance is a wonderful life parachute.

A famous quote on acceptance is ‘Accept what is, let go of what was and have faith in what will be.”

Once we can accept each person is on their own unique journey, we are able to express compassion for their actions instead of judgement practice forgiveness.

Another very famous quote on forgiveness is

“forgive them father for they know not what they do” Luke23:34

A phrase I strongly agree with, as I believe if someone truly knew and understood their actions were not kind and the impact they have on others they would not consciously or unconsciously choose to do them.

Therefor my conclusion on this topic stay true to you, acceptance is life’s parachute and forgiveness sets you free.

 

Thank You for taking time to read this blog, please do share your thoughts comments on this subject below.

Dawattie Basdeo

The above photo shared is by Akiane Kramarick painted age 9 titled ‘Father Forgive Them’