What Do We Do When Others Let Us Down

What Do We Do When Others Let Us Down

Feb 28, 2019 | Blog

What do we do when others let us down?

A challenge shared by one of the students in my yoga class for teenagers this week.

A challenge that many face throughout their life journey.

So how do we manage our emotions when others act in a way that is not in sync with how we would like them to be.

My observations on this challenge is the following.

Within each of us there is an internal moral compass, which guides our values, personal integrity and choices.

When another individual acts in a way that conflicts with our personal values, we can feel anxious, sad, hurt or let down to name a few of our different emotions.

As humans we are blessed with the ability to experience a whole range of different emotions. Acknowledging the many different emotions, we can consciously and unconsciously feel is part and parcel of life.

For myself the best way I have found to not fall into the judgement trap of others is to focus on one’s own personal integrity.

Through focusing on one’s own personal integrity and values, being true to oneself and standing tall in your own truth. We build an inner strength and wisdom based on our personal values that lights our path and diffuses the shadows of negative emotions brought on by the actions of others that are not aligned with our personal values.

Also, acceptance is a wonderful life parachute.

A famous quote on acceptance is ‘Accept what is, let go of what was and have faith in what will be.”

Once we can accept each person is on their own unique journey, we are able to express compassion for their actions instead of judgement practice forgiveness.

Another very famous quote on forgiveness is

“forgive them father for they know not what they do” Luke23:34

A phrase I strongly agree with, as I believe if someone truly knew and understood their actions were not kind and the impact they have on others they would not consciously or unconsciously choose to do them.

Therefor my conclusion on this topic stay true to you, acceptance is life’s parachute and forgiveness sets you free.

 

Thank You for taking time to read this blog, please do share your thoughts comments on this subject below.

Dawattie Basdeo

The above photo shared is by Akiane Kramarick painted age 9 titled ‘Father Forgive Them’

 

 

Self-love

Self-love

Feb 14, 2018 | Blog

“You can search through the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere, than you yourself. You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection.  –  Buddha on self love

What does love mean to you?

A popular saying is “Love makes the world go around” and for sure it is the most powerful force in the universe that I know of.

The bible verse Corinthians 13:4-8a describes love as;

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.

Today is Valentine’s Day, a day of celebrating love. At Magnificent Me Magnificent You we believe the most important love is self love.

Mahatma Gandhi famously reminded the world that everything begins with the self. A statement we strongly concur with as one can only give to others that which they have within.

Before we can truly love another, we must first truly love ourselves. We must first fill up our cup that it overflows with love.

Therefore, how can we foster self love within. Most people find it very easy to exhibit positive behaviour to friends, offering words of comfort, support and uplift when needed.

Ways to foster self love

In Buddhism a primary meaning of love is friendship. From this thought a wonderful way to foster self love is to act towards your self as you would a dear friend: –

  • Accept yourself whole heartedly
  • Be kind to yourself
  • Acknowledge your gifts, start making a list of the things that you love about yourself.
  • Ask friends and family what they love about you.
  • Let go of comparison
  • Know you are enough
  • Prioritize your dreams, do things that inspire and light you up.
  • Say no to things that aren’t good for you.
  • Spend time with people who support, encourage, motivate you to be the best version of you.
  • Own your thoughts and opinions
  • Talk gently and kindly with yourself
  • Try new things
  • Nourish your mind, body and soul
  • Trust your intuition
  • Pamper yourself each day with an activity you love
  • Practice self love meditations
  • Validate yourself
  • Maintain your values, lower your standards for no one.
  • Forgive yourself when required.
  • Acknowledge the amazing miracle that you are.

With self love, kindness, compassion, joy and freedom naturally flow. We trust our inner voice and feelings. Overcoming limiting beliefs become more creative and dream bigger, our cup overflows for all living beings. Easily fulfilling the statement “Love thy neighbour as thyself”.

We hope you agree with us self love is key and choose to love the self, first.